Gwyneth Paltrow Says ‘You Can’t Have It All’

Gwyneth Paltrow covers InStyle UK Magazine January 2013 because the year’s been wasted on the same three stories about Lindsay Lohan and NY/ LA’s revolving-door-jails. Inside the issue, Paltrow says she may deign to fill her uterus with another baby even though giving birth is a thing The Poors do. Although she’s only doing it to have another friend because ‘You can’t have it all.’

Paltrow tells friend-and-designer Diane von Furstenberg, who conducted this interview by phone from a yacht off Corsica, whether she’ll have another baby in her 40s: ‘My brain says, ‘Oh, I think I’m done, the kids are big now and I don’t want to go back to changing diapers.’ But a part of me would love to have another. Of course, I’m old now!’
On her kids; a son and a daughter: ‘When Apple was born, she had the hugest blue eyes. I looked into them and she was looking at me, and I felt like, ‘You are here to teach me everything.’ After Moses was born, I had postpartum depression. It was a difficult time and because of that, I believe I have an extra empathy for him and he for me.’
On the ‘Have it all’ fallacy: ‘I look for an interesting supporting part about once a year. That’s the most I can manage. Some women can do it and that’s fantastic, but I can’t. You make choices as a wife and mother, don’t you? You can’t have it all. I don’t care what it looks like.’
On the hardest thing about her marriage: ‘Probably our artistic temperaments together. Artists are sensitive; there are ups and downs, mood-wise. Musicians need a certain gravitas and focus in order to write. The temperament that goes with someone who is creative can be challenging.’
On her diet: ‘I was very strict for a while. I was macrobiotic for a couple of years, then I got pregnant and just ate ice cream. What I’ve learnt is I want to enjoy my life and food is a big part of it. I love to cook and feed people. I cook every day. My indulging is a fresh baguette with cheese and a glass of red wine, or French fries and fried zucchini. Or a turkey burger.’