Gwyneth Paltrow has given the year’s most obnoxious interview. Pretty much everything that has come out of her mouth this year has been sanctimonious or offensive. And now she’s outdone herself with a comment about life without children. Childless women readers: you’re empty husks with wasted ovaries if you don’t poop out a baby right now (babies come out while you’re on the pooper, right?) In the context of Beyonce’s pregnancy, Paltrow opined as only she can, ‘I think motherhood is the biggest blessing of all time and it gives your life real meaning. It’s always interesting when you’re a woman with success and you’ve achieved a lot, and then you have a baby and you realize everything you thought was an achievement really is nothing until you have a kid.’ Which means F**K ME for not having a kid. And the rest of you. Your lives are empty, meaningless, worthless, lacking substance, pointless, hollow, and selfish unless you sit on that pooper right now and produce a baby. In case you’re wondering why I’m so worked up, I choose not to have a kid and this p**ses me off. Moreover, we already had pimp momager Kris Jenner force her kids to try for babies, saying, ‘I would love all of my children to experience having children on their own. I think going through that process of being pregnant and giving birth, everybody should, if you can and you’re blessed.’ And Jennifer Garner saying, in the context of her latest movie, ‘There’s no deeper want for a woman’ than to be a mother. UGH!
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I know what ya mean Amy, also childless by choice.
I don’t assign any actual soul or heart or wisdom to anything Goop says. I mean, I know in her case, she doesn’t FEEL anything, or she wouldn’t be such an insufferable douche all the time.
So from that I conclude that she had kids the way people acquire possessions, like a house, a car, a husband -in her case.
“Time to have children and they will be perfect and have platinum inner aspects and wear free range llama wool undergarments with strands of actual gold woven throughout. They’re allergic to llamas? Damn peasant stock! It must be from HIS family genes.”
Ikr, excuse people making their own reproductive choices and not proselytizing to others. She’s just spent the whole year being so abrasive and other celeb crazies are joining the chorus.
STFU YOU IGNORANT BITCH! CHILDLESS BY CHOICE AND “LOVING LIFE EVERY FREAKING DAY!” HOW’S YOUR MARRIAGE BY THE BY? mY MAN DOESN’T “RUN LIKE A LITTLE GIRL” EVERY SINGLE TIME HE IS SEEN WITH ME! YOU SURE KNOW HOW TO PICK ‘EM and grow them…why don’t you fix your daughters eye?
It’s often hard to tell if Gwynnie is just putting her foot in her mouth or if she’s really as sanctimonious and obnoxious as she comes across. I sadly expect that its the latter.
I too don’t have kids and I never did!! Some mothers look at you like your a freak because you don’t want kids!! Well guess what?? I get to go out whenever I want and I get to buy myself all kinds of stuff without feeling guilty and I still have my girlish figure!! So there!!
I, too, am childless by choice. There are genetic issues that run in my family that I would not wish on anyone else, number one. Number two – ABOUT THAT CARBON FOOTPRINT!
These are the same asshats who preach about eating vegetarian, going ‘green’ and saving the planet, as they continue to populate an already exhausted planet with their precious spawn, because it is “such a blessing.”
**head exploding**
I think she believes that she alone is worthless. People who don’t have children still experience love. Love comes in all forms.
It could be their significant other, parents, siblings, nieces, nephews and on and on. Her coment is ignorant and I actually feel bad for her as it seems she needs those children to justify her existance.
I too don’t have children, but couldn’t love the folks I just mentioned above any less then if I had my own children. It sounds as if she also needs to redicule others to make herself feel better.
Her children will move on with their lives and how will she cope considering how she feels now. It’s too bad she doesn’t love herself enough and feels that she isn’t a somebody unless others are there to supplement her being.
Doesn’t sound like she’s a healthy parent and those kids might feel they have to be close by always so she can feel somewhat complete. Oh my…
Maybe if she had a supportive and loving husband she would feel complete.
You are absolutely spot-on, right on the money! Damn well said!
I’ll leave this here: http://i.imgur.com/XYFkp.jpg
I have 3 children and love them more than anything nor could I imagine my life without them! I also chose that life along with my husband. There is NOT A THING WRONG with wanting no children to having 10,it’s all how you and your partner deciding together on what kind of life you want! My best friend doesn’t have kids nor does she want them and I think it’s great! She can do,go and live a luxery life because that’s what she wants and kids to her would ruin that. I think it is selfish of people to have kids because they are forced by whomever or get the are you ever gonna have any kids crap! To each his own and well maybe she feels like her life is meaningless without kids that’s fine but don’t down people who choose otherwise! Live your life how you want and any one else can kiss it!!!!!
Having kids or not having kids is a personal choice. I think those of us who have kids cannot imagine life without them and can’t understand that someone chooses money and material things over children. I can understand it if a woman feels she has no maternal instincts or that she would be a poor mother then she is wise not having children. What is unfortunate is how many women have children without any thought to how they will provide for them or how to bring a child up in this complicated world. Those are the people who should not have children, but unfortunately too often do.
i think it’s terrible to come to the conclusion that people without children do so because they instead want money and material things over the children. that was not my case at all. in some cases people actually choose not to have children because they know they can’t handle the financial responsibility. in other cases it’s because of family history of disease, abuse or both. or because they themselves have a physical or mental disability that would not allow for an optimal environment for the child. some people don’t want them because they want the freedom, or the money, but other times it’s for more practical and actually philanthropic/ better for the child reasons. gwyneth is extremely shallow and myopic on this subject. she has no idea the kinds of circumstances many women come from, or that some women actually do a lot of thoughtfu, even painful consideration before making the choice.
I have two children and think she is an idiot. What is she doing in this country she hates anyway? She is so delusional and so offensive all of the time.
I bet if you polled 1,000 80 year old childless women-they would tell you they wished they had kids-having kids these days is tough if your NOT a celebrity or rich-but how else do you stay connected with younger generations without being a pervert?? who is going to give a shit about you when all your generation is dead?? you NEVER learn to be selfless-because your whole life is about YOU!! without kids -you just “don’t get it” about the bigger picture in life-I mean look at the women who are having a fit about this -they are already crabby bitter old self absorbed hags- and “Crab” aren’t you really Jennifer Anustain??? you had better hope you die young because otherwise you will be a lonely old bitter hag and your “girlish figure” will be long gone anyway
Not to be mean or anything, but you really don’t know what love is until you have/adopt a child. Everything is a shade of grey until you have a little one, then it’s full technicolor
haha… i don’t know how you got away with that comment without getting attacked, looking at this thread. apparently those comments are not allowed to be spoken outloud because they might offend someone. in fairness, some people say they have found this love in another or in a pet… i hope everyone has the opportunity to know a love similar to that which is possible between a parent and a child, whether it be through a partner, or a pet, or nature, or whatever.
“you NEVER learn to be selfless-because your whole life is about YOU!!”
That’s not true at all. Your life can be about the family you already have and helping others in the community. I am childless but I am also selfless and helpful.
Your statement is like religious people who assume that only their way of life is good and pure. Ignorant.
It seems desperate, the way your type has to attack whomever is different than you. Why should it bother you if some women don’t follow your path?
Most of what Paltrow spews is nonsense but why are all you childless by choice women in such a lather over this interview? Have some of you been having second thoughts or regrets? The woman with the genetic problems is one unselfish admirable woman as to the rest whose careers and spending habits are paramount I say please don’t reproduce.
That’s your problem, right there. You HOPE that we are unhappy, because it would validate you.
We are happy, and don’t think about you, but you people are always ready to attack us for being different than you. You can’t stand that some women don’t follow your path. In a case like that, your children aren’t even important as human beings themselves, they are actually more of a possession you collected. Your type should not be mothers.
And if your child never has children, you will attack her. That’s not love.
@CranAppleSnapple: True story, a different person left a comment weeks ago, saying all women who chose not to have children should be put to death. I’m not kidding. Deleted that pretty quick!
For pete’s sake.
And that’s a very loving, motherly attitude it had, hey?
She never said anything UN-forgiving about women who choses to not bear children. You all are just making up stuff in your little head and reading her interview wrong and trying to instigate to make this interview offensive. She was speaking about the wonderful feeling of Motherhood, something you anti-mommyHOOD people will never understand and probably shouldn’t. Most of you claim that you guys don’t bear children “by choice” but I bet 99% of you who claims so are single and can’t even pay a man 1$ to ejaculate his “spawns” in you. Oh yeah and Gwynerh Paltrow is a wonderful famous actress, something your dream can’t even afford(:
Oh blah blah blah.
If you learned to read you would see that we were replying to rude idiots like yourself, who say the same sort of rubbish like we are “anti-mommy”. It’s you that are anti-choice. In your case it seems like motherhood has sapped all your brain cells dry. We never put people down for being mothers, but some mothers are very quick to attack childless women.
And by the way, do you talk to your kids with that mouth? Trashy.
Really people stop your attacks on both sides. If someone has been critical of your choices place your feelings on that person and don’t assume every mother or non mother is the same. Having children doesn’t make you a saint and not having children does not make you a sinner. Happily I made the choice to have children. I’m very proud my children and now my grandchildren, and can’t imagine myself with out any of them. There is nothing about that that should be offensive to anyone. I have family and friends who’ve made other choices, it’s their life they get to do that and no one should have a vote in that. I know people who seem to be very overwhelmed by being a parent and not at all happy about it, sad for them sad for their children. I have friends who are very happy with out children. I know people who don’t have children who seem very unhappy with their choice but sadly it’s too late for them now. The mistake we make is by bunching them together. What works for one does not always work for another. It’s life…we are all here together and we hope the choices we make are right ones in the long run but sometimes they are and sometimes they are not. Be happy if the choices you’ve made have worked. Be happy for others who’ve choices have worked for them. Be kind to those who have chosen a path that ends up not working the way they’d hoped.
All she was saying is that all the success in the world is nothing compared to having a kid! She is saying it is the most important thing over fame and money. How is that offensive? I think if you find her comment offensive you are just looking for reasons to nit pick her. Most famous women have said they would give up everything, but not their children. Is that wrong? I don’ think so! If you’ve never had a child then you cannot relate, so why comment at all? That would be like a man commenting on her statement. She is saying this is the most important thing in HER life. If you have chosen not to have children that’s fine, but don’t knock someone who has decided to start a family. Get over it!
No one did that. The exact opposite happened. Try a reading comprehension class sometime.
Seriously. You are one angry person. You’ve been making snide comments throughout this thread, sometimes months after the fact, just itching for a fight. Get over yourself. You do NOT come across like someone who is happy with their choice. I too believe that GP was talking about her own feelings about motherhood. I myself waited until my mid-thirties to get started, so I do know something about living both sides of the issue. She’s not wrong, you know – having kids IS the ultimate for those of us who want them, and you simply cannot comprehend that, because you don’t have them. So just let it go already.
well said!! i think the women who are so angry with her comments are very bitter and its probably better they arent moms anyway. the world dosnt need kids raised by bitter lonely women who will likely end up being bullies and murderers. to amy grindhouse, you seem to be the most bitter of all, why would you let someone elses opinion of a happy meaningful life anger you so much? it seems you are missing the happiness out of your own life. try some yoga and meditation.
I don’t think she was attacking anyone, she was speaking only for herself. the comment makes her come off as pathetic however, as she’s saying she needs to have children to validate herself. There are a lot of women out there like this – they have children to feel loved and to give themselves a reason to exist, because they don’t feel ilike they’re worth anything in their own right. sad!
Anyone who’s kid-free may be interested in some sites I found* (kid-free safe spaces):
http://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/
http://maybebabymaybenot.com/
http://www.childfree.net/potpourri.html
http://childfree.livejournal.com/
http://childfreedom.blogspot.com/
http://independentofdependents.blogspot.com/
http://www.nokidding.net/
http://www.whynokids.com/
http://coolchildfreeguy.wordpress.com/
*Added some more.
You’re being way too sensitive about this. One who is really secure in their life choices won’t feel threatened by her comments at all, particularly as she’s only speaking for herself…and I believe I’ll leave it at that.
Slow down and back off Gwyneth. She is obviously talking about her own personal experience not bashing women for not having children. I am in my late thirties and do not have children yet and do not think it will define me; but it might, I haven’t walked in those shoes yet. If someone is a mother and her experience makes her feel this way than I’m happy for her joy and fulfillment. Promise to give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. Its frustrating when I see people bashing.
That IS abnoxious. I was unable to have children. It bothers me. And to hear such things – it’s hurtful. You already feel like a waste of a human being. And here someone is basically saying you shouldn’t even be in this world if you don’t have children. Like, why live? I hate her now.
maybe what she said was insensitive to the women who cant have children of their own, but i dont honestly think she meant to offend anyone. she is speaking of her own experience and never said women who dont have children need to jump off a bridge.
I was childless until 44 and most of my good friends chose to not have kids. But I gotta tell you, I agree with Gweneth. Nothing I ever did compared to having a baby as far as how successful it made me feel.
By the way… my childless girlfriends still feel very happy with their choice and don’t seem to get mad when I tell them how I feel. I think it is those women who feel left out or who have regrets who get angry or hurt at comments made by Moms gushing over their little rug rats.
Conversely, using your (well-reasoned) argument, perhaps mums who judge the childless-by-choice are jealous or regret/ resent having kids but can’t admit that either.
Very well said, Amy.
And when they can see that we are happy in our lives, it’s as though THEIR happiness is diminished somehow. They can be happy over there, but not if we are also happy in our existence over here. We must be set straight, because their way is the only real way! So the put-downs come out.
It’s actually so intolerant and selfish, it’s the exact opposite of what they as mothers SHOULD be doing.
@Nan
hahaha Wow. You have friends that “don’t mind” your comments about their choice to be childless? Where do you get off making comments and judging them? You are the friend who smiles sadly at them and pities them for being so so wrooong. I’ll bet they just love you.
The militant mommies say they feel bad for us, yet THEY are the ones attempting to hurt us with nasty put-downs. They don’t feel bad FOR us, they want us to feel bad.
i dont believe its the mommies that started spewing the hate, reread the article, it started with childless amy saying how much anger she has toward gp for her opinion. personally i think its childish and ridiculous to have so much hate for someones opinion that you dont even know! thats just crazy and such a waste of energy. the women who have children are happy with their choice, and the women who dont say they are happy with their choice too. let it be.
i try not to be the parent who presumes my private life is somehow superior to the non-parents’, but i understand i am not always successful. i also understand how single people often get screwed in the work place b/c they don’t have the child excuse. thing is, i also think single people say really offensive things about parents b/c they don’t understand that lifestyle choice perfectly either. it goes both ways. i had a co-worker at a work meeting start talking about “her friend” who “lost the ability to hold an intelligent conversation” after having a baby when i had a 1 year old. she was basically announcing that moms are not capable of working as well as single women. the person making this announcement in front of me and my subordinates and supervisors is someone i consider sensitive and evolved- so that this idea came out of her mouth so freely was so shocking and offensive to me. she (and others) have said some other pretty offensive things to me which are blatantly anti-family as well. the comments tend to be gender discriminatory b/c men don’t “disintigrate” in the public eye once they have kids the way women do. so, long story short, i get your point— but i hope you can be equally as vigilant about not being offensive in the reverse b/c that’s not fair either.
Honestly, I’ve always found there’s something cold about women who don’t want children. It’s best they don’t have them. It’s not easy. Your life is not your own. You have to put their joy and needs in front of your own. So if this offends you, sorry it’s just my opinion based on personal observations. However you will never have to lose sleep because you had to change a barfed on or wet bed in the middle of the night…
Amy, you are so defensive about your choice, clearly it is a soft spot for you. All she is saying is that once she had children, HER life was full and the fame and fortune pale in comparison. It gave her life purpose and she is happy about the choice she made. It is a personal decision and not meant for everyone but why blast someone for being happy about being a parent. You come off as defensive and bitter which is a shame because there are so many fulfilled women without children by choice who may not want children but are secure enough to allow someone to speak freely about being happy parent. Bitter much?
I’ve actually said very little in reply to this thread. While I don’t often become riled, the womb police can become a little wearing.
It’s pretty amusing that any counter arguments (moms probably resenting their kids or whatever) would connote bitterness to you. I’m content with my choices so there’s nothing to be bitter about. It’s a series of choices I’ve made. But I’m allowed to vent about the tedious, incorrigible baby scrutiny.
That said, your comment is randomly terse and hostile. So it seems you’re pretty pressed about the subject yourself, no? Fret not, it’ll pass.
Nice try, Amy, but “offended” was neither terse nor hostile – simply pointing out a few facts. You WERE determined to hate on GP for her comments right from the start. She wasn’t describing you or your life – she was talking about her own feelings. And she’s entitled to them, as are you. But to insist that she’s got a problem for loving her kids and understanding what it means to be a mom…really?
We can agree to disagree.
im sure its a good thing youre not a mom, hopefully you dont have pets either.
“But to insist that she’s got a problem for loving her kids and understanding what it means to be a mom…really?”
No one ever said that. You deliberately misunderstand and twist people’s words.
I think Gwyneth would have liked to been a rock star but there were no takers. I don’t have children, too big a job for me, but if I did, and had the money that she has to actually be a full time mom, I would want to give it all I’ve got and make sure my children knew I was there for them, that they were my first priority, especially when they’re so young.
Being a parent is a huge job, yes job, work, dedication, give up other things to have this, selfless. For many people children are a must have accessory, it completes the picture. It does not mean they’re dedicated to the job of raising a child. There are more and more children out there with parents who don’t have a clue about their kids until its too late. It’s a job people, one that deserves total dedication, make sure you’re up for the task. If you’re kids a big hot mess, you just might have something to do with you.
I think all of you who say your childless by choice should be more comfortable with your choice.. You all seem so very defensive.. So what if celebs say they love their kids… Is this really what your going to complain about??? really.. We cant find things like celebs who don’t like their kids.. Well I guess that just gives you more things to find to complain about..
I feel sorry for any of you who have to rip others apart, especially for loving a part of their lives.. I would hope that if you hardhearted crones find something wonderful in your lives that it is not shredded like you have all chosen to shred others choice to love. Did she say you are worthless without children? or did you just take that and blowup? I think we know the answer. If you chose not to have children that have the courtesy to act as you wish to be treated.
NO one did that! YOU are the one deliberately twisting people’s words and shredding people!
You’re crazy. You are the type of person that is ripping people apart, and you willfully don’t see it. You call us a bunch of names like “hard-hearted crones” and say that you as a mother chose to love? As though childless people don’t love? Demented.
I actually think you are a troll, because if you actually read back through all the rational statements, you would see the truth – that it is the mothers that are upset and aggressive to the childless. And it has been explained ad nauseum, over months, so you’re just trying to start it all up again months later.
I think it is all about preception. No one knows what she meant by that but her. It’s really easy to take a “mean” stand and assume she is slighting women who can’t have children.
Being a mother is a great job.one of the if not the hardest job..but you don’t have to have given birth in order to be a great mom. Lots of kids out there to adopt and in foreign countries for people who can’t have children. For those who chose not to..that is their right..
Instead of trying to always find fault or read into what someone might say..try being part of the solution not the problem. Journalist (and I use that term loosely on this type of venue) is about reporting honesty, integrity and truth. I think you lose out on all of them.
WOW, I used to like Gwyneth Paltrow. I think it is a woman’s absolute right to choose. If you do not want to be a MOM and become one, it is not good for the child nor the mom. I am glad my children are not of the era that you must have kids. I am really glad they have done well and get to do many things as a middle class person in America likes to do. They enjoy and nice home, good career, travel and a single couple life.
Paltrow comes from such wealth and lives a very wealthy life, she has no idea what it is for someone in the middle class.
SHAME ON YOU, you condescending, spoiled, wealthy person. Stay in your own league and preach to your fellow actors and other wealthy friends. Leave the common person out of your wrath.
I don’t know if I believe that she meant that your life is worthless if you don’t have children, rather that she feels her having children has greatly enriched her life.
I wanted to have children but due to health issues never did (I did conceive once but it ended @ 8 weeks). Now at 44 I doubt my dreams will come true.
I am extremely sad about not being able to have children and am trying to get over it and live a happy life.
If The Goopster would be so kind as to donate money to me for IVF, surrogacy, or adoption, I would greatly appreciate it!
Wow, this is funny. Nowhere in this interview do I see Paltrow spewing off anything about how the childless are the scum of the earth. I see her extremely happy to be a mother and Amy Grindhouse being extremely pissed off over it.
I don’t have children of my own, nor do I want them, but I don’t take offense to this. It’s that easy to rip things out of context like that and morph it into something offensive. Great job on this, but that just shows immaturity. No one cares if you do or don’t want to be a mother, which is the sad truth. Paltrow, whether provoked to talk about motherhood or not is expressing her feelings on it, there’s no need to be hurt or spew out children. Some women are born to be mothers, while others don’t want that. The freedom to choose and express yourself is what matters. The way this sorely mistaken blogger goes about it is just obnoxious.
FWIW, I wrote this a year ago. I feel the same way, but I wouldn’t express myself the same way if I were to post about this now.